I’m 33 and a few months ago I gave birth to my third son. During my pregnancy, I received so many comments about having a third son, and I spent a lot of time thinking about why three sons was such a big deal to so many people. I’ve always been committed to raising my children as humans first, before their gender, but over the last year, I’ve become even more determined to teach my sons about gender equality, and more—to teach them how to respect and empower others.
As I watched the Kavanaugh Supreme Court confirmation hearings in September and heard reactions from our political representatives, some along the lines of, ‘I believe at one point Dr. Ford was assaulted, but not by this man, at this time and this place...’ I became confused about why it was so easy for them to dismiss her. It made me wonder, what brought us to this point where we assume a woman is lying or has inaccurate memories, and is willing to sacrifice her reputation simply to smear the reputation of a man? It seems to me that in a male dominated, patriarchal society, the default will often be to believe or support the man... And so as the mother of three sons, I am going to aim to shift this thinking in my home and I hope to raise men who believe and support women. I am going to teach my sons that we are stronger together, when all of us are strong. We must lift eachother up, and not tear one another down. Ultimately, this isn’t about gender, but rather it’s about appreciating our individual uniqueness, and our equality despite our differences.
In some ways, it feels as if I’m discovering something new about myself and my role in society, and I’ve become addicted to reading and informing myself of feminine and feminist ideas. Here are some things that I’ve recently been inspired by:
RGB documentary: it was enlightening for me to learn more about how Ruth Bader Ginsburg has long been a champion of women’s rights and humans rights
Women and Madness by Phyllis Chelser: though it was first published nearly fifty years ago, this book provides so much insight and history into women’s psychology, and how women’s psychology has been historically approached by men
The Dance of the Dissident Daughter: A Woman's Journey from Christian Tradition to the Sacred Feminine by Sue Monk Kidd: is an inspiring personal tale about the feminine spiritual consciousness and its value for all women
My First Book of Feminism (for Boys) by Julie Merberg: is a thoughtful, approachable read for the kids