I've been thinking a lot lately about how I've changed over the years. About how my life experiences—the people I've met, the things I've read, the places I've visited, the work I've done, the fun I've had, the challenges I've faced—have shaped my mind and my heart. This year, specifically, it feels like a lot of lessons were learned. Some were small, and maybe inconsequential, and others were big, and maybe life changing. And I hope that by writing them down, they will not be forgotten, and I will be able to hold onto them in the new year.
Pain and joy, sadness and delight are like a big wave, in and out, in and out, and they are all ok.
It is not ok to say or do something that makes another person feel uncomfortable, it is right to communicate when you feel uncomfortable, and when someone tells you they feel uncomfortable, believe them. (This one, I feel is especially important to instill in Ryan and Connor.)
Maintain your life every day—a load of laundry, toys put away, a bed made, plants watered.
Remember, there are things we gain through the things we lose.
Think about impact, specifically physical impact—the things I buy and use and throw away, what I eat, wear and use. We are living on a borrowed planet with borrowed resources, borrowed from the future. Stop taking what is not ours and stop wasting what I don't need.
We need to be champions against iniquity. Martin Luther King Jr. said it best, "it is not enough for us to talk about love... There is another side called justice. And justice is really love in calculation. Justice is love correcting that which revolts against love."