These are the words we whisper into the boys' ears when we tuck them into their beds at the end of each day. This is the truth we long for them to know, to trust and to believe. Sweet Ryan, sweet Connor, you belong, just as you are. You belong here, in our family, and you belong in the world, too. Don't change or become something else, or puff up or shrink down, to try to belong. You don't have to do anything to prove you belong or to earn it. You be you, that is enough, because you belong.
Mpho Tutu and Desmond Tutu, put it this way in their book Made for Goodness: "Don't struggle and strive so, my child. There is no race to complete, no point to prove, no obstacle to conquer for you to win my love. I have already given it to you. I loved you before creation drew its first breath. I dreamed you as I molded Adam from the mud. I saw you wet from the womb. And I loved you then."
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