A few months ago I realized the value of mantras and having a few to repeat to myself throughout the day. I use them to pick up my spirit, to adjust my mood, to challenge my heart, and to make sure I don’t get down or lost in the details and challenges that are not worth my time and effort.
Here are some of the mantras that have been helpful for me:
It could be better, it could be worse. This could be perceived as settling, but I like to think of it more as letting go. At work and in my personal life, when things don’t seem to make sense or work out as I would hope, I repeat to myself, it could be better, it could be worse. I don’t need to control everything, and if I were to get a new job, or change something personally, it would likely not be much different. I need to learn to be ok with how things are. I need to remind myself that things are good, and it could be better, it could be worse.
I wanted this. When I’m having a chaotic, loud moment with three little boys, I like to remind myself, that I wanted this. I wanted three children, even more, I wanted three small children. I wanted this, and I am so grateful I got what I wanted. When I’m frustrated at work, I have to remind myself that I wanted this, I want to work, I want to have my specific job and work where I work, doing what I do. Life might not be perfect, but I need to appreciate it, because what my life looks like right now, is what I wanted.
Outlast. One of the greatest things about life, is that it keeps going. And so we need to outlast the challenges, the tough social settings, the confusing professional conflicts, the individual growth pains. We need to root ourselves in our values and commit to doing the best we can, with what we have.